I just started a new job working with high school students in Chicago through The Schuler Scholar Program. The students had to go to an adventure camp as part of the program and their leadership director taught us all an incredibly life philosophy that can be simply remembered as the Five-Finger Contract.
- Thumb: Thumbs up. Always keep a positive attitude.
- Pointer finger: Never use blame. When you blame someone and point fingers, three of your fingers point back towards you.
- Middle finger: Watch your language. I do not mean that those who swear are unintelligent and immature (I’ve thankfully outgrown that philosophy since high school). Watch your language does not necessarily mean don’t swear. Instead, I see it as keeping your language positive like your attitude and supporting others with your words. Use your language to build everyone up.
- Ring finger: Commitment. Commit yourself to doing good and always being your personal best.
- Pinky: Pinky promise. Promise to uphold the five finger contract to the best of your ability.
We’re not perfect. No one can be expected to be positive every moment of every day or always be on their best behavior. But this lesson for the students struck me as something I want to incorporate into my own life as I find ways to be a more positive and loving person no matter the situation. And bettering the world through feminism and activism needs a positive base.