This past weekend, I had the honor of being a part of a weekend workshop on how to affirm young people’s identities.
For part of the training, we listened to the song “3 Wishes” by J Cole and came up with our own three wishes around relationships in our lives. More than having everyone wish for world peace or a world without racism, our wishes were more concrete, more personal and for me, gave me a sense of power in my life. What can I control even it just begins by acknowledging a wish?
- I wish to trust my emotions more. I’m slowly feeling more confident in my homo-romantic identity and I think I’m getting to a place where I’m interested in exploring romantic relationships and being vulnerable.
- I wish my brother loved me for who I am as a queer autonomous woman and not just as his sister. I do not want to be the exception to the rule for his homophobia and misogyny.
- I wish to trust my friends more and trust that they will love me despite my imperfections. I do not need to be perfect all the time.
What are your three wishes? What do you wish for your relationships? I’m learning that the more I can affirm myself, the more I can affirm the young people I work with each day.